Resilience and writing
Books on resilience are flourishing. I live in France where this innovative positive concept has been introduced by the neuropsychiatrist Boris CYRULNIK.
The benefits of writing
Physical resilience is the ability of an object to return to its initial state after a shock or continuous pressure. In psychology, being resilient expresses the ability to bounce back in the face of adversity.Various elements can affect us : a mourning, a relationship break-up, the coronavirus crisis, a job loss, along with others. They produce moments of anger, sadness, or misunderstanding.
Writing helps to overcome hardships and shortcomings. Putting down on paper (or a screen) what hurts and prevents you from moving forward creates distance and awareness. It is a safety valve. Expressing one's emotions in words that clarify the experience can heal wounds and prevent trauma from being imprinted. It allows you to find meaning and to come back stronger.
I advise you to read Tim Guenard's incredible testimony, "Stronger than Hate : Struggling to Forgive" and "Option B" from Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook COO, who wrote after the accidental death of her husband in 2015.
Why write rather than talk?
Writing brings a change of perspective, helps us to see our misfortune differently, to make it an object of observation outside ourselves. We can also write memos that allow us to defer a thought and that can be reworked, until anger and pain are dissolved through words.
Speaking creates interaction with a responsive and influential interlocutor, while writing allows introspection and greater distance.
The writer Scholastique Mukasonga - who left Rwanda and the Tutsi genocide - wrote so that the tragic past of this country would not be the future of her children. There are many other examples where writing in all its forms (novel, autobiography, poetry, ...) has facilitated the work of resilience.
Writing is a creative process that can help turn lead into gold.